On the other hand, if the
parents disagree sharply and bitterly--if they get into a
fight--the children can suffer ill effects.
Children should not have to
deal with parental disharmony. They don't need to witness one
parent opposing the other. Being less mature, children are often
driven to side with one parent. Since they love and need both
parents, this puts them under tremendous pressure.
What children need is to see
their father and mother in harmony. In John 17:21, Jesus prays
that His disciples "may be one, Father, just as You are in Me
and I am in You." When a husband and wife live in harmony,
they become witnesses to their children for the Lord.
When parents have
disagreements, they normally should work them out in private.
Sorting something out may be necessary, but it does not need to be
done in front of the children.
People live in very close
quarters in a family. Plaster saints don't last long. Parents will
muff it sometimes. When they do, they should ask forgiveness not
only of each other, but of the children as well. They might have
to say, “We really got out of the Spirit, and we weren't a good
testimony to you. Our behavior was not the kind of example we want
you kids to follow."
The children will be blessed by receiving an
honest admission of human frailty from their parents. It may not
be an easy thing for a parent to do, but a chiId deserves no less
than any other Christian when there is a need for repentance.