Achieve More by
Deleting "Should" From Your Vocabulary
When we talk about our
goals, we use the word "should" a lot. Most of us think
it's just an innocent word that helps us get out of boring
conversations and confrontations about our bad habits. However,
the word "should" poisons our speech and ambitions by
inferring that what we're doing isn't good enough, and that we
would be better off doing something else.
When you say you "should" do something, what are you
1. It's an obligation that you're not fond of.
We don't talk about how we "should" do things that we
don't feel obligated to do. If we are excited about eating cake,
we don't say, "I "should" eat cake." We just
do it! However, if we feel obligated to eat celery, it becomes a
"should." If making cookies for the bake sale is a
"should," it's an obligation. If it were a fun activity,
it would be easy for you to just do it.
2. You're not going to do it and you have an excuse as to why.
"I "should" ________________," is usually
followed by, "but ______________." When you say things
like this, you are proclaiming to the world that you agree one
course of action would be appropriate, and that you're going to do
the exact opposite. Imagine how foolish you would sound telling
your boss, "I know that the appropriate thing to do is to
stay late and finish the proposal so I am prepared for tomorrow's
meeting, and instead of doing that I am going to go home and take
the chance of not finishing it before the meeting tomorrow
morning." If this is what you really mean, why bother
disguising with a "should?" Deep down, you know what's
really going on.
3. You know exactly what you need to do to make things better and
you haven't started yet!
For all of you out there who "should" stop smoking, who
"should" lose weight, or who "should" go back
to school, you know exactly what you want to do to make your life
better for yourself, and you're using "should" as a lame
excuse not to take action! Of course, standing on the sidelines is
much easier than running after the ball, but you don't win any
games that way. If you have a long list of "should's"
and a short list of goals, choose which of those "should's"
you will follow through with and put your plans on paper.
If instead of feeling that your day is just one thing you
"should" do after another thing you "should"
do, turn your "should's" into definite
"will's" or "will not's." While
"should" robs you of power and motivation,
"will" gives you power and resolve to get things done.
With fewer "should's" in your vocabulary, you'll find
yourself speeding along the road to accomplishment.
by: Kimberly Dawn Wells is a freelance writer and author
of the BE SMART Goal Achievement System. For more information on
how you can preplan your barriers and learn dozens of other
techniques that will allow you to achieve all your goals, visit
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